Do you find perfectionism holding you back on the journey of faith? The top 5 lies of perfectionism can be wiped out with the truth.
“Faith is a verb described as a noun.” ~ William Backus
I used to tell myself, “I have to stop being a perfectionist!”.
Can anyone else hear the irony of those words?
One of the biggest traps I often fall into is the notion that I can get rid of perfectionism.
If only I had more confidence in myself…
If only I could let go of the past…
If only I trusted God more…
All this If-Only thinking accomplished only one thing: keeping me from my Only-Hope of freedom. My focus to overcome my flaws blinded me to the truth.
God hasn’t been waiting for me to be better.
God has been longing to love me deeper — more than I had ever dared to imagine.
You and I don’t have to wait until we are free from perfectionism to start taking new steps.
I have gone through a lot of re-starts in my life. One thing I’ve found consistent: the voice of perfectionism always tries to stop me.
The newer the step, the louder the criticisms of perfectionism hisses.
It’s become so predictable that I came to a startling conclusion: the pull towards perfectionism isn’t going away. On this side of heaven, these critical voices can’t be annihilated completely.
But, I’ve also found a more powerful truth: the voice of God dares me to step forward anyways, because I am more loved than my imperfection.
Part of being human is experiencing our weaknesses. But, it doesn’t have to control the choices we make.
I’d done a pretty good job of listening to the voices of perfectionism, I decided to try an experiment.
Just for argument’s sake. What would happen if I started siding with the voice of God’s love?
I did a word study on “perfect” and “love” through the Bible. I began taking The Love Dare.
When In Doubt, Take The Love Dare
Using the nuggets I dug up from God’s word, I challenged myself — as a dare — to make choices that reflected my trust in God’s love for me, rather than how I felt about myself.
The Love Dare:
Whenever I get to a fork in the road between my fears and faith, I dare to:
1) Stop making decisions based on three things: fear of failure, mistakes or others’ opinions of me.
2) Take the step that reflects only one thing: God’s unconditional love for me.
The Love Dare is based on this key verse:
“And hope does not put us to shame,
because God’s love has been poured out
into our hearts through the Holy Spirit,
who has been given to us.”
Top 5 Lies Of Perfectionism
As I took The Love Dare, I found some ammo to combat the Top 5 Lies of Imperfection.
Lie #1. I’m not good enough.
Truth #1: So what. God loves what I’m doing anyways!
“If I must boast, I will boast of the things that show my weakness… God’s power works best in my weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9, 11:30
Lie #2. It’s too late.
Truth #2: It’s never too late. God saves the best for last!
“Everyone brings out the choice wine first and then the cheaper wine after the guests have had too much to drink; but you have saved the best till now.” ~ Jesus turning water into top grade wine. John 2:10
Lie #3. Why bother starting if I can’t finish?
Truth #3: I don’t know how long this will take. But if God’s in it, I’ll make it!
“being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6
Lie #4. People won’t like me.
Truth #4: Not everyone will. It will hurt, but God still thinks I’m wonderful!
“it is a very small thing that I may be examined by you, or by any human court; in fact, I do not even examine myself… but the one who examines me is the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 4:3-4
Lie #5.People will hurt me.
Truth #5: Even if that’s true, hurt won’t be my end. God’s love for me still wins in the end!
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good…” Genesis 50:20
Take The Love Dare
I hope you take the Love Dare, as you find yourself at a fork in the road.
It can happen many times during the day, but remember God’s love will never grow tired or weary.
God’s love goes beyond our limits. And nothing — not even perfectionism — can keep God’s love from you.
Even as I wrote this post, the threats of imperfection wanted to sabotage me. That’s okay.
I’m going to publish it anyway.
How is perfectionism are holding you back?
How is God encouraging you to step forward?
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Finding Your Voice: Thursday’s 2/20 Blog Link-Up. Faith Jam
psst… I wrote today’s post three years ago, right when I was struggling to write the book proposal (for “The Book” that will be published in this June).
I had made a new years resolution to write a book proposal the year before — before I turned 40. Well, I turned 40 and yet, I failed, even though for months and months of time and energy into it. I felt like such a loser. Defeated. Then, God gave me these words aboutThe Love Dare.
This Love Dare launched me to pick up my pen again –
To begin the journey again.
Of finding my voice.
To sit down and draft the book proposal.
Not because I was going to get published. But, the dare to be the beloved. When I removed the goal of accomplishing a goal and replaced that goal with a journey to let God love me, it changed my journey.
Beginning is very difficult. But, it’s what we were meant to journey through. Beginning is the nature of faith.
And so, I’m beginning from scratch again on my post-PTSD life. You know what? I’m encouraged by this Love Dare again today. The book I’m publishing turned out to be a different book than the book proposal I submitted. But, writing it led me to take a journey to where I could find my voice.
Even if you may not be writing a book, I believe with all my heart God writes his stories into our lives.
And it’s part of our calling to live out those stories.
To find your voice.
No matter what that looks like — in our quiet times at home with ourselves, in our relationship with God, with our hearts, in our families, with our friendships, our jobs, our parenting, marriages, — as well as our dreams, our art, and our future.
This Thursday, the writing prompt for our community Link-Up called Faith Jams is: Finding Your Voice.
If you have a blog, I want to encourage you to pick up your pen. Join me on the journey of finding our voices. Together.
Don’t think about it. Just sit down and let the words flow. You’re writing in community, a safe and welcoming community here at Faith Barista. Start now. Begin the Love Dare. In whatever area God is prompting you. Click here to learn more.
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